Friday Favourites

My favourite things this week are: 

*sunday roast at the pub * gold leggings * carbs * finishing my essay! * my new work trousers * bright pink * Links of London * Camera Awesome iPhone app * pineapple * winning on the raffle! * American Pie: The Reunion * Twiglets * postcards * my new desk * Jerk pulled pork * 30 day shred (yes, really!) * planning mini breaks with friends* cherry print * pugs *

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 And a round up of lovely links for your persual! 

DIY Tutorial: Scratchcard Wedding Invitations – totally going to make some scratchcards for something, what a fun idea!

Check out these amazing shoes from Kobi Levi

8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive 

 I like the person I am without my hair - I want Kate to be my best friend even more now

Chandler Dancing on Things – favourite new tumblr!

Loving the way that Audrey is styling up her Jimmy Choos this week

What are your favourite things this week? Any links to share with me?

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Why Do I Read Women’s Magazines?

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It seems I am not the only one who has been considering my relationship with women’s magazines recently, with Eva Wiseman discussing how time stands still in women’s magazines and of course the now infamous Vagenda doing daily criticism of the stuff you can find within their pages. I have long had a love/hate relationship with women’s magazines. I am not very successful recovering addict of their glossy pages. For a long time I consumed as many of them as I could get my hands on, ripping out pages of things I wanted to buy or read again. But eventually, the same articles started cropping up again and again, I’d read it all before, and I got bored.

I still couldn’t give them up, though. Rather than subscribing, I started buying them furtively as a ‘treat’, feeling a little dirty as I did so. I was a feminist now, I couldn’t be seen reading such things. They were shallow, gave girls unrealistic beauty standards, talked constantly about pleasing men. This wasn’t what I was about. Only, I’ve never really felt that way about women’s magazines, that’s just what I was supposed to feel. You know, as a feminist.

It is easy to dismiss women’s magazines in this way, and many of the criticisms levelled at them are true. They might all be true. But the criticism of women’s magazines so often comes from a place which dismisses women as well; that our concerns for our appearance and for our relationships are trivial when compared to the masculine pursuits of politics, literature and science. Those are the things we should care about, if we want equality. This is not a helpful narrative. I wish that women’s magazines did display a greater diversity, that they engaged with their audience as smart women who have an array of interests (and indeed, an array of body sizes). But we should still be taking women’s interests seriously. Fashion, beauty and relationships do not have to be trivial. And we should remember that women are not just passive consumers of the media, they can think for themselves. The advice they might find in magazines may be rubbish, but that doesn’t mean they are following it.

I’ve been thinking about why I have been a long time consumer of women’s magazines. In part, I think, it is because I am the one they’re aiming at, and they’re not doing so bad a job in hitting their target. A young, white, middle class girl whose biggest troubles have been boys, friends, what to wear and how to get the job of my dreams. And Glamour, Cosmo et al do address these topics; whether they do so effectively or not is another post entirely. A little bit is consolation, women’s magazines do demonstrate that everyone has neuroses, everyone cares what people think of them, everyone cares if they are ‘normal’. They are fuelling these neuroses as quickly as they are consoling them in most cases, but that consolation, the agony aunt pages and the ‘Hey, It’s Okay’ pages are comforting in some way. In part, it is aspiration. As much as we have moved past Sex and the City, the Carrie lifestyle is still an indicator of success. I may now be a feminist and a socialist, but the consumerist roots I came from are not so easy to weed out. Success still looks like expensive shoes, a nice apartment and cocktails on a Friday night. It looks fun. And it’s fun to look at things that look fun. A part is liking the easy going, light reading style of them. In the same way that blogs offer you a quick snippet to read, digest and move on, so too do women’s magazines. Maybe it’s just me that has a short attention span, but I do believe that just because you are a smart, switched-on, successful woman, doesn’t mean that everything you read has to be super serious. You’re allowed a diverse array of interests. Yes, I care bout cuts to disability allowance and the US presidential election, but I can also care about what I wear and the best place to get a good cocktail. These things are not mutually exclusive, and do not make me any less of a person. I’ll admit though, a lot of it is habit.

It is my dream that one day there will be a magazine that just is feminist, without having to constantly talk about feminism. I love feminism. I have spent a lot of money getting a degree all about feminism. I talk about it all the time. It is a big part of who I am, so that is not my problem. It is just that so much of feminism is about critique and not about creation. A magazine which showcases feminist fashion and features would be ideal, in my world. Maybe one day I’ll make it (and yes, I do believe that there is such a thing as feminist fashion).

I think Rachel Hills sums it up most perfectly in this article about why she writes for women’s magazines. I want to see changes in the women’s magazine industry. Big changes, in some cases. But I want the criticisms to stop being about the trivial, shallow women who write and read these magazines. I still want women’s magazines to exist, in a new form. The reasons why I read women’s magazines will still continue to matter to me. There are bigger and better conversations still to be had, but this is a start. So what do you think? Why do you (or don’t you?) read women’s magazines? Do you like or loathe them? 

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This Week…

essay is almost done! / the view out of our back window in the sunshine :) / favourite smoothie for breakfast / bagels / winning raffle tickets / Bibi vouchers / friday night – blankets and brownies / got my eating leggings on! / today’s nails and rings

Been a social week this week! Working on my essay during the day and then partying at night! Thursday night was fundraising quiz for Martin House and I won the best prize in the raffle! £100 worth of Bibis vouchers, very excited to spend them, been wanting to go there for ages!

Friday night we stayed in and watched New Girl with lots of lovely desserts. Saturday was a Carb Party! My housemates and our friends were doing the Half Marathon and needed to carb load ready for the race, and I was more than happy to join in! Made a delicious (and deliciously easy!) smoked salmon carbonara and a spicy beef stir fry. Noms.

And today was the half marathon! Paul woke me up early getting ready for the race, so I am grateful not to be going to work tomorrow! Helena and I sat outside on the wall and watched the runners go past, and then everyone met up for a lovely roast dinner at The Mustard Pot in Chapel Allerton – highly recommended from me! Well done to my housies as well who all ran really well in the race!

Next week is finally finishing the essay, hopefully! And then I am free for the fun of summer! What have you been up to this week?

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Friday Favourites

My favourite things this week are:

*hawaiian print jeans * surprise flowers * yellow * Haagen Dazs Vanilla Caramel Brownie ice cream (seriously just the best!) * increasing my word count * quizzes * ticking off my to do list * the view out of our back window * spaghetti bolognaise * New Girl * smiling * the NHS * my flower ring * consensus decision making * planning a staycation * asparagus *

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 And a round up of lovely links for your persual! 

10 Ways To Make Your Instagram Photos Pop 

How to Road Trip Solo

Ask A Grown Man (with John Effing Hamm!)

The first issue of Aesthetic magazine – a lovely read :)

Why I will continue recommending counselling on this blog forever (watch out for Captain Awkward in a Saturday Spotlight soon!)

What are your favourite things this week? Any links to share with me?

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7 Things You Can Do To Make The World A Better Place

We all want to make the world a better place, right? But it can so often seem like a daunting task; there are so many things that need fixing and you are just one person! It’s easy to get disheartened and to believe that your contribution doesn’t make a difference. That couldn’t be further from the truth! There are lots of little every day things that you can do to make the world a better place and which take almost no effort at all. There is still plenty that will need doing, but it’s better to start somewhere than not to start at all!

1. Recycle

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I’m a recycling nerd; it physically hurts me to throw glass or tin into the regular bin, the guilt is too much. A lot of councils have good recycling facilities, and many (if not all) will collect from your house. So all it takes is a quick rinse of your recyclables and you can pop them into the correct bin! The world doesn’t need more waste, so stick your smoothie bottle or free newspaper into your bag until you find a recycling bin. The planet will thank you for it some day.

2. Sign a Petition

It’s the ultimate in lazy activism, and just putting your name to something is not going to change everything automatically. But if you’re not going to do anything else, at least sign a petition. It takes less than three minutes, and it really can make a difference. If you want somewhere to start, try the Save The Women’s Library petition which is a really worthy cause. If that’s not to your taste there are plenty of websites where you can find something you care about to put your name to. And if you can’t find one for your cause, why not start it yourself?

3. Say Please and Thank You

It might not change the world in a big way, but saying please and thank you to everyone helps you out, even if it’s their job to do so, will not only make you a nicer person but it really might make someone’s day. If you’ve ever worked in retail, you’ll know what I’m talking about, but so many people are either outright rude, or don’t acknowledge you. A simple please and thank you takes no time at all to say, and you’re much likely to get good service if you treat people with respect and kindness. It’s a win win, you’re probably doing it already!

4. Use A Library

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Libraries are having a bad time of it with recent budget cuts, and I’m sure they would appreciate your support. Not only that, but as with points one and five, the world does not need more waste, chances are you’ll be giving or throwing that book away in a few years. So rather than buying a new book, why not see if your local library has it? It’ll save you money and space. Plus, I don’t know about you but since I mainly buy books on Amazon it’s hard to browse; with real bookshelves in front of you, you might find a new favourite! And if you really must have a copy for yourself, why not try an independent bookseller?

5. Have A Clear Out

We could all do with a bit more space, and chances are you have plenty of things you neither need nor want languisihng in boxes in the basement, or at the back of your wardrobe. Whether it be clothes, books, equipment or various odds and ends, we often hold onto stuff out of sentimentality or because ‘just in case’. Read a couple of minimalist blogs to get you in the spirit and then spend a day sorting out your junk. And here’s where the making the world a better place bit comes in; donate it. One person’s junk is another person’s treasure, so find a charity or shelter which needs the items you no longer do. Lighten your load and your conscience at the same time! Two birds, one stone and all that.

6. Send Some Post

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We all love getting mail, don’t we? Mail that’s not bills or forms or important, official stuff is a delight to receive, and a delight to send. If you’re looking for a way to make your own world a better place, why not send some post? A ‘Get Well Soon’ card for a friend who’s sick, a funny postcard for one who’s going through a hard time, a letter to a beloved grandparent, just a ‘thinking of you’ card for someone you’ve not seen in a long time. It’ll mean more than a facebook message or a text, and they’ll really appreciate it. All for the cost of a stamp!

7. Buy Something Local

Buying food from the supermarket is easy and cheap, unless you shop at Waitrose of course! It is, however, not the most sustainable or green way that you could be doing your shopping. I am not unrealistic enough to expect you to be wandering around farmer’s markets to buy your weekly shop, but it’s great to find local businesses to support. We buy our meat from a lovely butcher in Chapel Allerton that I can’t recommend enough, and there are so many benefits. Not only are you supporting the local economy and small business owners, you are cutting down on food miles and chances are it won’t be that much more expensive. You get much better quality, and you can talk to someone who really knows their stuff. As with all these tips, you’re making your own world a better place as well as saving it!

What are your tips for making the world a better place? Have you tried any of these ones recently? 

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This Week…

Asos parcel! Lovely yellow shoes inside :) / Business Barbie look – pink blazer and jeans / Cheeky Nandos / Favourite necklace & Topshop jumper / 2 4 1 cocktails at Las Iguanas / Stu enjoying a drink at Ribshakk / Flowers from Paul :) / Ice cream at the theatre / Model’s Own Hedonist

Had a busy week this week! Monday evening I went to a Culture Vulture event at Leeds Met about whether Leeds should have a mayor, which was really interesting – nice to learn a bit about the politics of Leeds, have lived here almost a year it’s about time I got involved in stuff! Wednesday was my final seminar of the year, and because I’m a gender studies geek I also went to a free seminar in the afternoon about naked protests, so interesting! Anyone who knows me loves how much I love to talk about Occupy, so I felt very intellectual having something to contribute to the discussion!

Thursday night we went to see stand up by Isy Suttie at the Laughter Lines festival in Leeds. A great show, really lovely and heart-warming, although the ending of the show had a bit of a bitter sweet feeling to it! And then Friday night it was cocktails and a lot of meat at Las Iguanas and Ribshakk with some good friends. A very funny night, we ate and drank very well! I recommend the pulled pork, but it really is for two!

Saturday night I was at the opening night of Carousel with my lovely friend Eloise who works for Opera North so we were lucky enough to get free seats and invites to the reception afterwards. Very good show, highly recommended if you like an old-fashioned musical!

So all in all I’ve been sampling all the delights that Leeds has to offer this week! I really have learnt to love this city, although I’m not sure it will ever feel like home to me!

What have you been up to this week? 

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Saturday Spotlight: Smitten Kitchen

In this weekly feature I showcase one of my favourite blogs and discuss all the reasons why I love it. Hopefully you’ll find something new to read that you love too! The Internet is better if we are all friends. Got a blog you love, or think I’d dig yours? Drop me a line here.

If you like food, then you have to read Smitten Kitchen. I have been tempted to lick the screen of my computer more than once because of this blog. In my opinion, it is the best food blog on the Internet. And obviously, you value my opinion right?

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It’s written by Deb, and all of the cooking is done in a little New York kitchen, which makes it all the more impressive. And the photography? Mouth-watering. I wish I could make cooking look this good!

The recipes aren’t too complex, but will definitely impress a guest. And there’s plenty to treat yourself with too! The recipes section is really easy to navigate; you can search by ingredient, dish type and special requirements (Vegetarian, Freezer-Friendly). Be careful not to stray into the chocolate section though, you may never find your way back out again! This website is my go to if I have something in the fridge I want to use up, or if I have a craving for something but want an inventive twist on my usual go to meals.

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My personal favourite recipes are:

* Mushroom Lasagne

* Asparagus, Goat’s Cheese and Lemon Pasta

* Penne A La Vodka & Belgian Brownies

* Cheesecake-Marbled Brownies

* Flatbreads with Honey, Thyme and Sea Salt 

* Strawberry Brown Butter Bettys 

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Oh, and there’s rumour of a book to come. Let’s do this thing.

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Friday Favourites

My favourite things this week are: 

cocktails at Leeds Malmaison * buskers singing Ed Sheeran * the colour red * the excellent customer service at Lush * episodes of 30 Rock that I haven’t seen before * political debates * dressing entirely in pink * free seminars at Uni (seriously, go to these while you still can students!) * jeggings *

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And a round-up of lovely links for your perusal! 

Why Can’t I Be You? - An interview with Shelby Knox. Am I the only person here obsessed with Rookie Mag? I know I’m not its target audience, but it is super awesome. And this interview is one of the best I have read in a long time.

Funniness Does Not Also Imply Meanness 

Fashion vs. Function: Glasses – something I struggle with a lot! My glasses haven’t touched my face in over a year, which is probably not healthy for my eyes!

A Complete Guide To Hipster Racism 

You Only Think The Bullies Are Helpful - words I could definitely do with taking to heart!

What are your favourite things this week? Any links to share with me?

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Should Leeds Have A Mayor?

Last night I attended an excellent debate hosted by The Culture Vulture on the subject of whether Leeds should have a Mayor. I was uninformed and undecided, not ready for the vote on Thursday and I am grateful that I went, because I have made up my mind. The event was held at the Rose Bowl at Leeds Metropolitan University, a quite impressive building! There were six panellists and a rather animated host in the form of Andrew Edwards from BBC Radio Leeds , who had the best radio voice I’ve ever heard in real life. You can see a list of the other panellists here.

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It is definitely a contentious issue for the people of Leeds; a fact I was made aware of by the numerous angry leaflets that I have happened upon in the last month or so. There is no doubt that the debate last night got people heated, and opinion was definitely divided throughout the room. A lot of good points were made by audience members, although a disappointing amount were councillors or politicians. It’s unsurprising, since they’re in amongst it but I felt it skewed the discussion a bit and I would have liked to hear more from your average Leeds resident. There was some discussion about communication with the wider public, and it’s definitely a discussion that needs to be had. It often gets forgotten that not everyone has Twitter (or even access to it), or willingly seeks this information out for themselves. 

As I said, the discussion that was had last night helped me to make up my mind and I am sure you’ll all be pleased to know that I am voting ‘yes’ for a mayor in Leeds. I have not been a resident here long, but I have been an interested admirer of the city now for quite a while! And I do think it’s the best decision for Leeds, and for other cities. So much of the discussion was focused on getting the right person, and as Tom said, it seemed as though people were ‘scared of democracy’, of allowing the public to have a say in case they made the wrong decision. And that’s not say that the public won’t make the wrong decision, look at the Parliament we are saddled with now, but that is only the wrong decision in my eyes (and, of course, many others!). As Andy said, ‘my idiot is your hero’. Plus, we’re already trusting the public to vote for the councillors, many of whom were adamant that the ‘wrong’ person could come into power if the public were allowed a say. So surely we trust them to choose a mayor? 

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As it stands, only one in seven people can name their Council Leader (and many of those still get it wrong!). Peter made an important point about how the current process’ shady nature (whether it intends to be or not) allows for a particular group to maintain power. I do not know enough about the politics to Leeds to know if that is the case, but no doubt the potential is there. However much we may hate the personality politics of the London Mayoral election (and indeed, voter turn out suggests that we are not the only ones!), it makes it visible. We know who we are voting for directly, and we know who to hold to account when mistakes are made and promises not delivered. Whilst Tom insisted that a mayoral system has not increased voter turn out or engagement with the public in council issues, being able to put a face to something can never be a bad thing, surely?

Clearly there is a problem with the abstract nature of the vote; for now the true powers of the potential mayors have not been laid out and so it’s hard to know what we are actually voting for. But that is the problem that has been laid out before us, and cannot be reversed now. We must take an educated guess at what the Mayor will be, which is likely to be ‘a Council Leader with knobs on’. 

There was too much focus, in my eyes, about the difficulty of removing a ‘bad’ Mayor. Whilst it is true that currently a Council Leader can be removed from their post by the other councillors almost immediately, I do think this can be detrimental. Whilst in theory it promotes accountability, the temptation to appease the other councillors must surely be great. That there are council elections every year, thus constantly changing the face of the council, it’s make up and priorities may be good if something dreadful is happening, the opposite can also be true. I could not have agreed more with audience member Rachel from the School of Geography at Leeds University, who made the point that the four year term of the Mayor gives the stability for visionary leadership. It gives the potential for someone to rise above the petty quarrels and factional fighting which so often characterises local politics, and to provide leadership towards something great. Being allowed to think in the long term, rather than being forced to think in the short-term by constant elections, can allow for bigger change to be made.

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There were some underlying issues that weren’t addressed; there was a lot of chat about how only 8% of people voted for the current mayor in Doncaster, and that turned out to be a disaster (although there are historic problems with Doncaster Council so it’s not just having a Mayor that’s causing them issues!). What wasn’t brought up was how it is First Past The Post that allows this to happen, not a mayoral system. If we had a more representative voting system then this would not be an issue at all.

We have yet to see what a Mayor would look like for Leeds. The negativity towards a mayoral system, and the adage ‘if it ain’t broke don’t fix it’ which proliferated throughout the room makes me think that despite my ‘yes’ vote we will not yet get to see what it will look like for us. Whilst I am not naive enough to believe in an idealistic mayoral election with every facet of society represented, rather than the domination of white men which is characterising the Liverpool Mayoral elections as we speak, that potential is still there. The chances of getting a Mayor who cares nothing for this city are slim. And we open up the way for non-traditional politicians to take to the stand. Stuart Drummond, Mayor for Hartlepool was on the panel, an unassuming man who could have taken a lot more credit for his success. A once Hartlepool United monkey-mascot, he ran for a joke and has been elected three times in a row. He may have been thought the ‘wrong’ person by a lot people in that room if he stood for election in Leeds, but the proof is in the pudding. As he said, the Mayoral system is nowhere near perfect, but a shake up is needed in politics as a whole, and if this gets us even a step on the way then I say yes, it’s a good thing. What about you? 

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This Week…

Pretty highlighters to get me through work / Big feathery earrings / Trying out some new cleanser / It’s a bit wet in Leeds! / All Bar One for after work cocktails / Pay day purchases / Date night – working the red lipstick! / Cute shoes and navy nails / Sunday night dinner 

Been a fairly uneventful week again! Still doing essays so tied to the books for now, but got an extra week than I thought until the deadline so it’s not all bad! It’s so much easier to write an essay about something you feel passionate about as well – compared to undergrad I’m enjoying my work a lot more!

Went on a lovely date with Paul on Saturday night, we got all dressed up and went to cocktails at the Leeds Malmaison and for dinner at Viva, a brilliant Italian on the bridge. The food was absolutely delicious, I had a gorgeous fillet steak and prawns cooked to perfection and Paul had the duck. It was a properly authentic Italian place, I’m sure we’ll be going back! Anywhere which does limoncello is a definite must visit in my books! (Does anyone else like that? I sometimes feel like it must just be me and the population of Lake Garda!)

Been very spoiled on the cocktail front this week – went for a lovely couple of drinks with a Uni friend on Thursday to break up the monotony of the working week! I am definitely developing a taste for Chambord!

We’re off to Culture Vulture’s Leeds Question Time tomorrow – gonna find out all about whether a mayor is a good idea! And then, of course, a lot more reading and essay writing planned! What have you got planned for the upcoming week?

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